DO NOT OVERLOVE

 Have you ever found yourself in those situations where you are knocked down by something and standing up for yourself is the last option?? Not cowardice,but your intuition tells you that you can't fight back. There's just nothing you can do about it...... It's not new anyway, you knew this day would come,just the day and time that were not known to you.

Been going through such a moment lately and just like the other times,I never fight back somethings. So like ...just listen,nod ,do not even cut their sentences,I just listen,after they done I wait for them to hang up. I never do it,it's just not me then ofcos you know that typa smile we give....and we MOVE and leave everything to time and the gods.....to me time is everything.....now enough with me,am still dealing with their echos daily in my mind but healing visit I hope.

Those boring afternoons am scrolling through my phone with Sia's 'Unstoppable' in the background,then I stumble at this post on a friend's feeds. ~~~"Sometimes we loose people because we overlove them."~~~Do you think it's true?? Personally I don't know what to believe. But suppose it was.

I always thought showering someone with all that love,booking those surprise dates, always wanting to spend every single minute with them......name it all>>>I used to think it was love but we might be wrong. I'll call it suffocation. 

Robin Thomas,a counselor says that,"When we get excessively caring and anxious about someone,and shower them with our choicest affections and love,we are showing an embarrassing degree of possessiveness, protectiveness and attachment; which interferes intrusively into someone's freedom, choices and preferences and blocks the person's individuality from expressing freely. It's like we control their life completely as per our program and agenda. This blocks the person's freewill expressions and causes them a lot of stress as they feel controlled and stifled. Too much attention, fawning upon an excessive display of emotional attachment is disconcerting and uncomfortable and irritating.......... Remember freedom is an important domain in a person's life."

And I couldn't argue any further,I now know where I went wrong.

When you go through a breakdown, sometimes give yourself some time alone to check and compare both worlds, Sometimes we are the problem.

Do you believe we can loose them by overloving them?? Share your views